So many of the women that I treat don’t have connection with the anger that they feel. It’s something we’ve learned to deeply push down, because ‘good girls’ definitely aren’t angry.
Yet there is not a person on this planet that doesn’t feel anger sometimes.
Pushing anger down leads to one of two things:
We bottle it up but it can flare up at the wrong moments – we snap at our kids or our spouses without ever really owning up to the fact that we are angry. We become the nagging or annoyed version of ourselves we vowed we would never be.
Or we can bottle it up so deeply that it never comes out at all. It stays inside as a brooding resentment and martyrdom, leading to inflammatory health problems like indigestion and asthma or eczema. And we lose part of our voice and self to it.
An EFT session is a safe space to reconnect with your anger. I’ll help you to find it, process it, and direct it right so it doesn’t hurt you, your children, your family or anyone.
Come and own your anger. It’s safe to be angry when you know how to be.
🌊 Anger as a Wave
Anger rises like a wave. It builds, peaks, and eventually subsides. The critical part is not reacting while you’re in the crest of the wave, because that’s when the energy is the most chaotic and potentially harmful.
Think of it like being caught in the ocean — you don’t fight the wave, you ride it out safely until you’re on stable ground again.
🫀 Feeling vs. Acting
A powerful distinction:
- Feeling anger is healthy.
- Acting out of anger (in a way that hurts others or yourself) is what becomes destructive.
Suppressing anger (pushing it down) leads to resentment, shame, or even physical symptoms, indigestion, or tendency toward accidents. But expressing it recklessly often leads to regret and damaged relationships.
🪞 What Anger Is Telling You
Anger is not a “bad” emotion — it’s an alarm system. It usually signals:
- A boundary has been crossed.
- A value has been violated.
- A need has gone unmet.
When you can pause and ask, “What is this anger trying to tell me?” you begin to harvest its wisdom.
🗣️ Validating Without Venting
It sounds like you’re wanting to:
- Allow the emotion to exist.
- Give it a name and voice (even privately).
- Let it move through you — through breath, tapping (EFT!), writing, movement, etc.
- Address the issue (if needed) after the intensity has passed.
This is exactly how anger can become a tool for truth rather than a weapon.
An EFT session with me is a safe space to uncover what the anger and hurt is really about, and where you can find the tools for deep self validation.
✍️ Practice You Might Try:
When you’re angry, say (or write):
- “I notice anger rising in me.”
- “It makes sense that I feel this way because ___.”
- “I’m going to let this wave pass before I choose what to do.”
