“The quality of their mother’s happiness is the No. 1 indicator as to whether or not a child will grow up to thrive.”
I don’t know who this quote is originally attributed to, but when I first read it, it struck a deep chord. Not just as a practitioner, but as a mother.
We all want our children to thrive. We invest so much in their development, education, health, and happiness. But how often do we question our own happiness? Do we really believe as mothers that my happiness is just as essential for them as theirs is?
Let me share some examples from my work with clients how I’ve seen time and again how a mother’s inner world becomes the emotional atmosphere her children grow up in. When we carry anxiety, unresolved trauma, or emotional exhaustion, it doesn’t stay hidden. Children pick it up – not always through words, but through energy, tone, and the way we move through the world.
Let me share a few examples.
One mother was stressed about weaning her baby. Every meal was an ordeal. The baby cried, food was refused, and there was tension in the air. We discovered that when this mother was a young girl, she had once babysat a baby who choked and needed CPR. That traumatic experience had lodged itself deep in her nervous system. Years later, as a mother, it resurfaced as fear, tension, and inability to move forward with weaning her baby. Tapping through the emotions released the stuck energy, and everything shifted. Mealtimes became calm and normal. She felt able to feed her baby normal, healthy, solid food and not be panicked at mealtimes. The baby responded to her new energy – because babies do. They sense us.
Another mother told me she felt constantly triggered by one of her children. She loved her tweenage daughter, of course, but something about that child just grated on her. She felt guilty, ashamed, and confused. In our session, we uncovered a memory from her own childhood – a moment of rejection and pain that had never been healed. Her child was going through a similar experience, which was pressing on that exact wound. But once we gave that old story space to breathe, to be seen, and to heal – the energy shifted. Compassion flowed in. And parenting that child became so much easier.
It wasn’t about techniques or to-do lists. It was about clearing the mother’s energy. Because once that happens, the love that is already there underneath flows freely, and we can be calm and present for our children.
And isn’t that what our children really need?
Not perfection. They need a mother who is well. Who is emotionally available. Who feels good in her skin.
Once the energy is flowing, the challenges we are facing can be solved with normal solutions, instead of feeling like you’re trying so hard yet you’re banging on a door that is strongly padlocked and won’t open.
I wish mothers would come to me for EFT for themselves. Instead, I get plenty more coming to solve issues for their children! My message today is to you, dear mother. I wish you valued your own calmness and fun and wellbeing as much as you value your child’s, to come for a few sessions of energy healing and really feel better about that fear or phobia or anxiety or stress that has been bothering you.
I know how busy and pressured you already are, just being a mom. I know how hard it is to take an hour to prioritize yourself in a world that demands so much.
But I want to say this clearly:
Your happiness is not selfish. It is service.
Solving your own emotional blocks, calming your nervous system, tending to your old wounds – these are acts of love not just for you, but for your children.
So if this speaks to you, consider this your invitation.
You are allowed to feel good.
You are allowed to get support. You don’t have to know how to fix everything yourself.
You are allowed to spend money and time investing in yourself.
And your children will thank you for it – in the quiet ease of connection, in the calm that you will spread in the four walls of your home, and in the freedom they’ll have to become themselves, without carrying your baggage that shouldn’t become theirs.
A present and joyful mother is all they need.
If you’re ready to take that step for yourself – and for them – I’m here.
Contact me for a free consultation or learn more about EFT sessions.
